The city bus is real democratic institution. Anyone can speak, and everyone else (who happens to be on 34 at the same time) has to listen. It’s like a people’s television. And as with tv: you cannot reply. It would not be polite to interfere in other people’s conversations, even if you’d love to disagree.
Thankfully blogs were invented.
What have I overheard on the bus then? A chat between a girl and a guy. When they started to talk about feminism, the girl was quick to declare that she is not a feminist. That she thinks feminism is “radical”. And that she enjoys to have some things done for her by men. She said a friend of hers was a feminist and she disagreed with her, because men and women were “created” for different roles. Interestingly the guy did not express any opinion, was only a listener, and then they went on talk about how terrible the weather is here comparing to Barcelona.
Whenever she spoke I rolled my eyes thinking “oh dear”. She was a university student, yet she obviously never heard of gender/sex distinction – and where it comes from (the view that gender and gender roles are constructed socially and acquired in the process of socialisation).
I wondered if she really understood what she said, and whether she really believed that… Is it worth to have drinks bought by a guy, in exchange for no political representation? For lower wages? For fewer chances of promotion? For doing both professional work and housework (as happens in most Polish homes)?
I mean, come on!
This inspired me to do a new series here on Polandian that will focus on women. How is life for women in Poland? Are women equal? Where is feminism in Poland? And what do women think? Is what I heard on the bus a wide-spread view? And – if so – why? I will seek answers.
Coming soon, stay tuned.